Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life. Every bride wants it to be perfect. The dress. The bridesmaids. The flowers. The centerpieces. No detail is too small. Nothing is overlooked.
I've helped many brides find their perfect wedding dress or bridesmaids dresses. My job is to make sure I can help take some of the stress of wedding planning away from other brides. Sometimes wedding go off without a hitch! But sometimes, it rains.
I've shared my wedding story with others. And I wanted to write this post to let brides out there know that what can go wrong, will go wrong. But don't panic. It will still be one of the best days ever.
I wanted the perfect day. Planned it (as much as I could while being a new business owner) to the T. There is a saying that it's suppose to be good luck when it rains on your wedding day. I think that's true, because my friends, it didn't just rain on my wedding day. It poured.
It started out as a beautiful day that would turn into one of the hottest days of the year. We got married at the Crowne Plaza Sky Garden in downtown Minneapolis.
Our ceremony had to be early (1:30 PM) since we weren't having our reception at the hotel. It was about 104 degrees out. It was a good thing we provided umbrellas to at least provide some shade. We had to be ready early to start some pictures. I decided I wanted to see Jake before the ceremony. One reason to have our private moment together and the other because it just worked out better with our schedules.
It doesn't sound all bad yet, does it?
Let's get back to how the day started. I woke up excited. The most excited I've ever been. I had Brett Dorrian from Brett Dorrian Artistry arrive early to start hair and makeup. She's pretty damn good if you ask me. I seriously felt the most beautiful I've ever been.
It was starting good. Things were looking good. for the day. I heard funny stories from the night before. And loved seeing friends I hadn't seen in a long time.
I had two Maids of Honor that represented two different times in my life. That morning, I found out that one of my closest and oldest friends (also MOH) wasn't exactly feeling like being in the wedding.
It was almost time to see Jake (my husband). As I was headed down the stairs, I wasn't thinking about how someone couldn't stand up by my side on the day of my wedding, I was thinking about how extremely happy I was to see Jake.
I had several friends that I could have asked to step in place and a few had even offered to grab the dress. But I just couldn't think about that at the moment.
1. My Maid of Honor was a no show to my wedding.
She said that she had anxiety. She didn't show up to the wedding or reception. Pretty sucky. But I didn't let that ruin my day.
Because I was so stressed leading up to the big day - remind you I was a new business owner and I have three families (child of divorce) - my dress didn't fit me. It was too big. At least it was too big and not too small. But, when I sat down, you could see my bust of the dress rise up to my chin.
2. My dress was too big.
3. It was 104 degrees and I was sweating so much. At least my spray tan from Brett didn't run off.
I honestly think that any dress I would have picked out, I would have been hot in. I had an organza dress, but any long dress on your legs will probably make you sweat.
I didn't do a big party bus since I wanted to walk and caravan to our reception that was at Target Field in the Metropolitan Club. So we walked downtown as we were heading the Seven Rooftop.
4. My bustle did not do it's job. Constantly being fixed.
We had the whole rooftop at Seven to ourselves. It was so fun. Not only was it our wedding party, but it was a lot of friends and family.
5. It rained.
Luckily, it was after the reception had started and we were all inside. The speeches were perfect. The food was amazing (from the three bites I ate). The first dance was epic. A friend of Jake's was our DJ. He created a custom mix for our first dance song.
6. But then, the sound system failed and had to listen to the radio for the rest of the reception. This was after the dances. After dinner. Sometime between 7-8.
I had my one bridezilla moment when I heard Taylor Swift on the radio. That's when I knew we were listening to the radio.
7. We forgot to cut the cake and have the cute cake smashing event.
8. There was some heated arguments involving some family members and an altercation. They didn't let me know until the next day, but needless to say, not fun for others caught in the middle.
9. My bustle broke again....
10. Some of the guests got a little out of hand...
11. I really wanted sushi. I had a late night sushi snack. I didn't even get any!
12. We had my cousin film the wedding. He's talented and looking at getting into film schools on NYC. But unfortunately, his computer crashed and lost it all.
13. We got our pictures back from the talented Tracy Jean Photography - and I noticed that one of our groomsman wore a navy vest instead of black. Such a minor detail in color, I didn't even notice at first!
Even trying to match the color coral was hard. Not many of our colors matched perfectly, but it all worked out.
A few pieces of advice:
-hire a wedding planner. They for sure take the stress away. Even if you just do a day of coordinator, they for sure help. I'm lucky I had my parents, but still, I wish they could have enjoyed the day without the added stress.
A special thank you to Jake's parents, My mom and stepdad, and My Dad and Stepmom. You all helped make our day a dream and we couldn't have done it without you.
-get with a DJ that has all the proper equipment. DIY can work, but in my case - it didn't.
-hire a videographer. Jake and I had a custom first dance song and I rapped to him part of it. No one got it on video. We don't have vows or any sort of video from our day.
It was an epic wedding. There are many many more stories and good ones too. Maybe that will be a post for another day.
A few wedding pictures:
These are just all the things that went wrong. There are so so many things that went right. At the end of the day, I got married. That is the whole goal. To get married.
I talk to a lot of brides. There have been brides who think their day will be ruined because their bridesmaid didn't get the extra length they should have. Or that their dress was delayed in production by the designer. But take a minute to enjoy the day. All of the craziness.
One piece of advice I received was:
Take 5-10 minutes just you and your spouse. Away from everyone and everything. Kiss. Hold hands. And be happy that you're married.
So, it is true that rain is good luck on your wedding day. I'm just two months from meeting our little boy and I'm still crazy in love.
Photographer: Tracy Jean Photography
Flowers: Forever In Bloom Floral
Cupcakes: Queen of Cakes
Ceremony: Crowne Plaza Sky Garden | Minneapolis
Reception: Target Field | Metropolitan Club
Makeup: Brett Dorrian